What makes you a GENTLEMENT???

Today I'll talk about what I think it is that makes you a gentlement. 
I don't have any high standard, all of what I expect from you, men, is as below:

1. If a lady is in need of a hand to help lift heavy things or to carry something that is beyond their capability, you will step in the picture and offer unconditional assitance. Don't think that will make you bold or too forward. Think again. We, ladies, in fact, quite like the idea of a man helping us in such situation. Just like you, we are also prideful creatures. We loathe to ask for help, even when there is no other choice.
In my case, it's my father. He's soooo LAZY that he wouldn't bother to help us when we need him. On trips, I and my MOTHER were the ones who carried most of our HEAVY luggages; while all he carried was a small backpack. When we went to supermarket, I and my MOTHER, again, were the ones who had to drag all the heavy grocery bags. What do you think he had in his hand? Guess what, it's something he bought at a CD stores or even worse, absolutely NOTHING.

2. When you share food portions with female members of your family, please be tentative and considerate towards them. Divide the portion equally. Never cross your greedy mind with something like, "Maybe she won't eat this (or that). And if I don't eat it (or them) now, it (they) will go spoilt. Better not waste it and eat it now....blah blah blah." No. That won't do. How do you know what we don't eat. Stop being such a presumptuous ass. My father does that all the time. If we have 5 apples, he probably will be kind enough to leave 2 of them for us three (me, my sister, my mother) to share. And if he starts assuming again, he'll leave us NOTHING. Why is that? Because he's convinced himself that his female family members do not eat apples.

3. NEVER EVER say that women are born to serve. NEVER EVER mention of the women's roles and responsibility in the past. It's LONG OVER. You hear me??? It's OVER. There's no such thing anymore. And NEVER EVER proclaim yourself as the pillar of the whole household when you are completely irresponsible and ignorant toward your family. I'm not saying anything about whether you are a breadwinner or not. That I don't care in the least. What is counted is your caring attitude to your family. Money is irrelevant. 

4. When you need something, do it yourself. Don't expect to sit around while we work our ass off. We are not your servants. Stop being pushy and bossy. You have hands and feets. What's the deal in pouring your own glass of water? We don't mind doing that for you from time to time. But imagine yourself being ordered to get a glass of water from the kitchen when you are studying or working in your room on the 2nd floor SEVERAL times a day. How would you feel? Not happy at all, I'm sure. Totally pissed off, infact.
A piece of advice. Want someone to serve? Hire yourself a maid. We are NOT your servants.

5. Don't think we are air-headed only because we are females. Our intelligence is very high and may surpass you in many compartments. We are quite accomplished. DON'T you dare look down on or sneer at us, thinking we are not worth your time. Be attentive as a listener when we talk. DON'T you dismiss our ideas simply because you reckon nothing good comes out of us. Shake your stubborn, snobby head. 

To be honest, I still have a thing or two to say, but I'm still working right now. I only take a short break to blog before it is too late for the day. All these advices come from my experience in dealing with my FATHER and some of my male FRIENDS. MANY of them, including my father, are douches. I don't care if you think less of me when I said my father was a douche. Because he really is. The tension in our father-daughter relationship is partially due to the things I mentioned above. Take him as a BAD example. Try to do something to avoid being called a DOUCHE by your own daughter. That probably will help you figure out a way to be a GENTLEMENT.

We, ladies, don't need you to treat us like queens or damsels-in-distress. We only want you to treat us with respect, equality and some delicacy. If you think it's too hard a task, then I'm afraid the road to you being a gentlement is going to be a long, tough road. Don't try so hard to consider how to deal with women. Think of us as your friend, your equal. Act on your instincts as a friend, as a considerate person. That's quite enough for us. Or at least for ME.